Discipline can be a delicate subject when it involves gifted children. This week at #gtchat we tackled this topic as it related to both parents and teachers. With regard to the difficulty faced by adults when considering discipline, it was agreed that it was more about perspective than how hard it was to accomplish. It should be considered behavior development rather than punishment. Trying to force or coerce a gifted child to do what you want, doesn’t work. Building a relationship built on respect does.
Emotional intensities paired with intellect play a large role when deciding about discipline. A gifted child seeks to deeply understand the world around them and this can lead to perceived misbehavior by others. Oftentimes, simply recognizing when a child shows restraint in displaying appropriate behavior in social settings can add perspective.
Asynchronous development also plays a role. The reasoning and verbal skills of very young gifted can lead to the need to incorporate patience with discipline. Being ‘many ages at once’ can influence behavior in gifted children that may be imperceptible to others.
Preventing discipline problems in the classroom was discussed as well. Problems fade in the classroom when students are placed with intellectual peers and challenged appropriately. Students placed with a teacher who enjoys teaching gifted & learning with them rarely develop discipline problems. (Delisle) When teachers understand how gifted students learn, they can develop a mutually beneficial relationship and respect grows. A full transcript may be found here.
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About the author: Lisa Conrad is the Moderator of Global #gtchat Powered by TAGT and Social Media Manager of the Global #gtchat Community. She is a longtime advocate for gifted children and also blogs at Gifted Parenting Support. Lisa can be contacted at: email@example.com
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Disciplining the Sensitive Child from Dr. Dan Peters
Growing Up Gifted by Barbara Clark
Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students by Christine Fonseca
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