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Holiday Survival Tactics for the Gifted Family

gtchat 12182015 Holiday Survival Tactics

 

The holidays are stressful for many people, but they can be especially difficult for the gifted family. It was explained in simplest terms during this week’s chat by Tracy Fisher, school board member and new grandmother,  “Everyone is INTENSE!”

As we were reminded by Jerry Blumengarten, aka Cybraryman, it is a season celebrated by many cultures.

Cybraryman Holiday 2015

The disruption in their daily routine and the high expectations of others can wreak havoc in gifted families. Marianne Kuzujanakis, pediatrician and homeschooler, also pointed out, “Stress points for GT families: Routines lost. OE’s. Anxiety. 2E issues. Developmental asynchrony. Introversion. Food allergies!!” Empathy for the less fortunate and concerns for world peace often contribute to anxiety in the way gifted children feel. Corin Barsily Goodwin, Executive Director of Gifted Homeschoolers Forum, added, “I’d also note that this time of year can be incredibly stressful for gt folks who *don’t* celebrate Xmas.”

There are ways to reduce the stress that have proved successful. Pre-plan activities and remember to include ‘down time’ to reduce potentially stressful situations from occurring. Do not overextend yourself. It’s better to say “no” than to disappoint others. Schedules should be kept as normal as possible.

Dealing with relatives who don’t ‘get’ gifted can be an everyday struggle that becomes worse during the holidays. If possible, ignore behavior in the moment; but resolve the issue later in a more relaxed setting. Explanations, however, may need to be made if comments are made directly to your child.

How do differing abilities shape family dynamics; PG/2e/gifted? Parents need to understand that all gifted children do not react to stress in the same way. Many gifted kids had an affinity for one another at family gatherings; however, differences can influence behavior. Age plays a role, too; dynamics change as kids got older.

When unforeseen situations arise, a plan needs to be in place. Gifted children need to be given ‘space’ and ‘time’ to de-escalate when overwhelmed. Try to remove your child from frustrating situations if possible; understand that overexcitabilities are real. As hosts, we should also provide these ‘safe’ havens for our guests as well.

Finally, we asked the question, “How can we help our children thrive during the holidays?” Creating new family traditions can help. Answer any questions that arise openly and honestly. Share your beliefs, but value your children’s opinion as well. Exposure to holiday traditions of different cultures can help children to appreciate the season. A transcript of this week’s chat can be found at Storify.

 

Global #gtchat Powered by the Texas Association for the Gifted and Talented  is a weekly chat on Twitter. Join us Fridays at 7E/6C/5M/4P in the U.S., Midnight in the UK and Saturdays 13.00 NZDT/11.00 AEDT to discuss current topics in the gifted community and meet experts in the field. Transcripts of our weekly chats can be found at Storify. Our Facebook Page provides information on the chat and news & information regarding the gifted community. Also, checkout our Pinterest Page and Playlist on YouTube.

Head Shot 2014-07-14  About the author: Lisa Conrad is the Moderator of Global #gtchat Powered        by TAGT and Social Media Manager of the Global #gtchat Community. She is a longtime  advocate for gifted children and also blogs at  Gifted Parenting Support. Lisa can be contacted at: gtchatmod@gmail.com

Links:

Parenting Gifted Children through the Holidays

Have a Happy [not exasperating] Holiday

Activities for Gifted Children during the Holidays

Holiday stress: What Parents of Gifted Children Need to Know

Holiday Stress & Gifted Families with Jade Rivera

Surviving the Holidays with a House Full of Gifted Folks

Hoagies’ Blog Hop: Surviving the Holidays

How to Strip Your Holidays Naked

Surviving the Holidays

4 Ideas to Engage Your Child during Holidays

GHF Blog Hop: Surviving & Thriving at the Holidays with a Gifted/2E Kid

Dear Parents: Here’s How to Survive & Thrive at the Holidays via @redwhiteandgrew 

Sprite’s Site: Sprite’s 2010 Christmas List

Sprite’s Site: When Extended Family Don’t Get Giftedness

Sprite’s Site: I love Christmas BUT…

Graphic courtesy of Lisa Conrad.

 

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Holiday Stress and Gifted Families with guest Jade Rivera

Jade Rivera

Jade Rivera

Holiday stress is an issue that affects many families with gifted members. This week, Jade Rivera joined us to search for ways to alleviate this stress and enjoy the holiday season. Jade is an educator and consultant who specializes in gifted education for highly sensitive, asynchronous learners. She is hosting a Community Call on November 10th “Holiday Stress & The Gifted Family” for Gifted Homeschoolers Forum.

GHF Holiday Call

Many factors come into play when talking about why gifted children find the holidays difficult to enjoy. The disruption in their daily routine, high expectations of others, perfectionism, empathy for the less fortunate all contribute in some way to the anxiety they feel.

It is possible to prevent many of the negative reactions experienced during the holidays with planning in advance by talking to children and family members about expectations and what to do when it just gets to be ‘too much’. Developing a plan beforehand is key to experiencing a happy holiday season with your family. A full transcript of the chat may be found here.

 

Global #gtchat Powered by the Texas Association for the Gifted and Talented is a weekly chat on Twitter. Join us Fridays at 7/6 C & 4 PT in the U.S., midnight in the UK and Saturdays 1 PM NZ/11 AM AEDT to discuss current topics in the gifted community and meet experts in the field. Transcripts of our weekly chats can be found at Storify. Our Facebook Pageprovides information on the chat and news & information regarding the gifted community.

Head Shot 2014-07-14About the author: Lisa Conrad is the Moderator of Global #gtchat Powered by TAGT and Social Media Manager of the Global #gtchat Community. She is a longtime advocate for gifted children and also blogs at Gifted Parenting Support. Lisa can be contacted at: gtchatmod@gmail.com

 

Links:

This Halloween, Banish The Boo & Conquer The (Worry) Monster! by Dr. Dan Peters

A Recipe for a Peaceful Holiday Season from SENG Gifted

Holiday Survival Guide for Parents of Gifted Children

Cycling Through the Holiday: The IPSE Four-Stip Process for Managing Hard Stuff

Dear Parents: Here’s How to Survive & Thrive at the Holidays from Pamela Price at Red, White and Grew

Happy Crappy Holidays! by Celi Trepanier of Crushing Tall Poppies

oliday Tips & Tricks for High Maintenance Introverts   by Amy Harrington

Holidays, 2e, and the Man in the Red Suit

Keeping my Sanity Through the Holidays with a 2E Child by Care Martin

Naked Holidays: Stripping for Low Stress by Wenda Sheard

Pinterest and the Myth of Holiday Perfection by Jen Merrill at Laughing at Chaos

Surviving the Christmas Season by Jo Freitag at Sprite’s Site

Handling the Holidays with Your Gifted Child: Excitement, Anxiety and Acting-Out Behavior

Managing Your Gifted Kid’s Intensity During the Holidays

Holidays & Your Gifted Child

Reducing Holiday Stress

Parenting Gifted Children through the Holidays

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