Fostering Relationships for GT Youth

GT kids face unique challenges when trying to find intellectual peers who share their interests and abilities. Such peers help these kids to develop self-esteem and a positive attitude toward life in general. When GT kids fail to find and build relationships with intellectual peers, they often withdraw from social interactions, may try to hide their giftedness, forgo academic opportunities, or perform poorly in school on purpose. As children withdraw from social situations or try to ‘fit in’ with age-peers, they risk further deterioration of social skills and less chances of finding true peers. This can lead to serious mental health risks.

Most gifted students express positive views about their ability to have meaningful relationships and do not perceive their designation as ‘gifted’ in negative terms. However, those with strong verbal skills faced the most difficulties with age-peers. Bullying at school is an impediment to healthy peer interactions. GT students viewed as ‘nerdy’ or ‘studious” can feel the stigma of being labeled ‘gifted’. GT students can find it difficult to make friends with others who share their passions or interests with similar academic ability.

What guidelines should be in place regarding older friends? It’s important to understand that it’s okay for GT kids to have friends that are older. This is most certainly the case for mentors; but also those with shared interests. As with any friendship, respect for each other is important. For younger children and even teens, parents bare responsibility for setting the guidelines and boundaries for older friends of their child. Guidelines should involve input from the child, set clear limits concerning appropriate activities (video games, movies), and establish curfews when necessary.

When possible, it is important for teachers to make sure that GT students have at least one other GT peer in the classroom. Even better, cluster grouping is an effective way for these students to work together and form friendships. It is important that a GT student not be the sole one in a classroom; the one who is always the top student without much effort being put forth. It can lead to egotism or the opposite; changing themselves to fit in. Teachers can facilitate many activities to promote friendships for GT students through the formation of clubs, providing volunteer opportunities, or connecting with pen pal organizations.

GT youth can do a lot to foster relationships with age-peers, too. Friendships can develop around non-academic interests. For GT youth who are isolated geographically, online friendships have become increasingly common and increase the likelihood of finding age-peers who are also intellectual peers. Participation in academic competitions/endeavors and summer camps can aid GT students in finding friends at other school campuses in the local area.

Where can parents look for peer support networks for their GT child? Parents can look for enrichment opportunities (summer programs, academic-based camps) where their GT child can connect with like-minded friends. For younger children, this includes setting up playdates. They can tap into existing adult networks (gifted conferences, online organizations, social media connections) which include youth programs or create networks by starting parent groups.

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Posted on June 7, 2021, in Bullying, Emotional Intelligence, Emotional intensity, family, Fonseca, Mental Health, parenting, Social Emotional and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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