Setting Boundaries for Gifted Siblings

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Setting boundaries for gifted children proved to be almost as difficult to chat about as it is for parents to do. Admittedly, raising gifted siblings brings unique challenges for parents, the children themselves and for the entire family. Many abilities, unequal abilities and asynchronous development within the same family can be overwhelming.

Parenting become a balancing act in an attempt to ensure fairness in how they respond to the needs of each family member. All children need to feel valued regardless of ability. Gifted rivalry is not accidental; realizing intentions and counseling siblings is an important parental responsibility. It can extend to the selection of colleges, participation in academic competitions and affect acceleration decisions.

How does one build positive and cooperative relationships in a family? Parents can value their child’s point of view as a way to encourage cooperation. Jo Freitag of Gifted Resources told us, “[It’s] necessary to balance opportunities offered and time spent with each and encourage them to value each other – not always easy.”

Parents need to value the strengths and weaknesses of each child while acknowledging differences. They must have a clear vision of the goals they wish to set for their children and then allow the child to set ‘some’ of their own boundaries. Acting as a role model for setting personal limits is a way to gain the respect of a gifted child. Involve children in family decisions and learn to be flexible over time. A transcript of the chat can be found at Storify.

Global #gtchat Powered by the Texas Association for the Gifted and Talented  is a weekly chat on Twitter. Join us Fridays at 7E/6C/5M/4P in the U.S., Midnight in the UK and Saturdays 13.00 NZDT/11.00 AEDT to discuss current topics in the gifted community and meet experts in the field. Transcripts of our weekly chats can be found at Storify. Our Facebook Page provides information on the chat and news & information regarding the gifted community. Also, checkout our Pinterest Page and Playlist on YouTube.

Head Shot 2014-07-14  About the author: Lisa Conrad is the Moderator of Global #gtchat Powered        by TAGT and Social Media Manager of the Global #gtchat Community. She is a longtime  advocate for gifted children and also blogs at  Gifted Parenting Support. Lisa can be contacted at:


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Graphic courtesy of Lisa Conrad.

Posted on November 11, 2015, in anxiety, Asynchronous Development, Emotional intensity, family, gifted, gifted and talented, parenting, Parents, Psychology, Social Emotional and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. What a great resource you are, Lisa!!

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